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How a child uses his inborn traits — whether those will be strengthened or subdued — will be influenced throughout his childhood by three or four factors: 1. Relationships. Your relationship with your child will have a greater impact on him than that of any other person, so do all you can to nurture him. Also seek to help him develop mutually uplifting relations with siblings, grandparents, friends and others. 2. The way he is educated. Be involved in your child's education to ensure that your child's classroom is suited to his makeup. I'm not suggesting that you ask his teacher to cater to your child but to be sure she recognizes his personality traits, builds up his strengths, and encourages him to overcome weaknesses. In some cases, you may even decide that homeschooling is the best option for you and your child. 3. The environment in which he lives. Make sure your household provides your child a rich environment — and I'm not talking about material trappings. Tw...

But he who is greatest among you shall be your servant. Mathew 23:11 A servant is someone who serves others and it demands a lot of discipline for one to be at the service of others. It is pretty easier and more conventional to have people serve you than it is to serve others. Easier to notice what is not done well than it is to actually do it well, and service is about being involved in doing it well. I have noticed a desire among people, this desire is often very strong and cuts across sex, ethnicity, race, class, name it. This desire is a desire to be outstanding in a chosen field of endeavor. But only a few of this great multitude that desire this actually stand out; the reason is very obvious, the lack of readiness to pay the supreme price of service, serving the interest of others. The criteria for greatness in life still remain readiness to serve; the servant will forever be the greatest anywhere, anytime. Someone tried to compare ancient architectural works of Egypt with...

Thinking is an act or practice of engaging ones’ mind to produce thought; it is being productive in your reasoning thereby forming opinions or judgments that can effect a positive change. Thinking is often mistaken with worrying or anxiety but there is a whole lot of variation between the two. When faced with challenges, anxiety focuses on the challenge but thinking is looking out for solution to the challenge. Anxiety sees impossibility but thinking sees possibility. It is a natural expectation of man to think, because man is created a thinking being and has well developed brain. Man has unlimited capacity to reason productively; engaging the brain means engaging your life and making the most of life. Thinking demands the engagement of both your mind and your brain (head). When the head alone is engaged, it is lofty thinking and lacks capacity to add up to life. Mind and head must be engaged simultaneously for one to be said to be truly involved in an act of thinking. Man is...

Success told as history is nothing but a failure. There are a lot of success stories of yesterday that has no representation of success today; for success not to be told as story there remains need for such success to have a support. It is important to mention that success is not a dash or sprint but a marathon race; success is an accumulation not an event. So success must be sustained otherwise it becomes a failure and to sustain success, the following pillars are of essence. PILLAR #1: DISCIPLINE – self-control is a basic requirement for sustainable success. Until you are able to conquer yourself, you cannot truly be successful. Success without self-restrain is failure waiting to happen. You must consciously and willingly put a check on yourself otherwise you will be checked out of your success. PILLAR #2: ACCOUNTABILITY is accepting personal responsibility for your actions and inaction. Success demands that you take ownership of your action and be ready to face the consequenc...

The generous soul will be made rich, and he who waters will also be watered himself . Proverb 11:25 Reflection is the quality of a sound, image, or wave to turn back when it enters a boundary. Once a medium is encountered, the sound, image, or wave returns to its’ source instead of entering the medium; so it is with life always returning to the source. This account for the saying that what goes around comes around. People that care to leave a legacy know this too well and show this by the way they live. Every action is a seed and will always return in multiplies. Whatever you imagine to get out of life, start making that happen to others and some such reflects back to you. Also whatever you abhor, make every effort never to make anyone go through such experience. What you make happen to others God makes happen to you. life truly is an echo; a repeat of events.

1. If your child lies to you, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviors or mistakes. 2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, then you have lost them (do not express shock at their mistake). 3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advise them more than you encourage them. 4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public (discipline is best done in the home front not in the public, do it in-house it has better result). 5. If you child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them choose what they want. 6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly. 7. If your child does not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them. 8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give to...

We live in a highly monetized world yet some great things of life are still free; can be accessed without money and as such life can be good without a treasury of riches and wealth. God created man a social being not a material being . Life is not wired to be materially defined but socially defined; lack of this understanding is the major reason for emptiness and unfulfilled living. A lot have defined their life by the volume of wealth and riches they have accumulated, and have sojourned in an endless journey of seeking fulfillment in life without success. Hugs, Friends, Smiles, Kisses, Family, Sleep, Love, Laughter, and Good Memories are the good things available for man and they have no price tag; they still remain free and readily available for all who cares for them. You are at the risk of getting the fake in trying to buy them with money; they are naturally meant to go for free because they are gifts of nature (God).

Success is achieving something desired, planned or attempted; having a favorable outcome or result. Success is desired by all but achieved by few; only a few that can pay the price truly succeed. Success begins with having a task and pushing your task to a defined target. The major reason few actually succeed is because a lot fail to understand or define their task; you cannot push a task not well defined. So success thrives on the pathway of TASK – PUSH – DEFINED TARGET . TASK is the course you want to achieve, the reason or purpose for your action(s). The goal you want to achieve; until task is well understood it cannot be pushed to a defined target. SOME BASIC FACTS ABOUT SUCCESS 1. No one ever succeed by change. 2. Success answers to careful and conscious effort. 3. Diligence is the price tag for success. 4. Success has no respect for nothing but hard work. 5. Success is not cheap. 6. Success demands courage. 7. Success is not absence of failure but tireless effort amids...

“He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much; Who has enjoyed the trust of pure women, the respect of intelligent men and the love of little children; Who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; Who has never lacked appreciation of Earth's beauty or failed to express it; Who has left the world better than he found it, Whether an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul; Who has always looked for the best in others and given them the best he had; Whose life was an inspiration; Whose memory a benediction.” by Bessie Anderson Stanley

Uniqueness is quality of being only one of a kind, particular or peculiar, remarkable, extraordinary. It is that singularity that distinguishes one from all his/her companions; ones individuality and distinctively characteristic. Having no like or equal, unparalleled, incomparable, limited in occurrence or limited to a single outcome or result, without alternative. These are description of uniqueness. God is the master producer and He produces with uniqueness. God do not engage in mass production but makes each piece with special touch of uniqueness. Every creation of God attests to this truth; same in form but only one in its kind. You are special and you have no kind because you are God’s product. Fulfillment in life is a function of the understanding and appreciation of ones’ uniqueness. DEALING WITH YOUR UNIQUENESS God creating us with uniqueness intended this for our advantage; He planned that the best in us will show itself in our uniqueness. There are ways to deal with thi...

Champion is a winner in a challenge, contest, or a competition. There is no champion without a contest; being a champion presupposes that one has been involved in a contest and proved to be the best among the contenders. Life is a contest but not primarily a contest with others but a contest with oneself. There has never been a champion who has not first conquered him/herself; the beginning step in championship is to conquer self and once self is conquered, it is easy to conquer in life. There is allowance for all to be champion and no one is born a champion; champions are made. There are some basics every champion needs. 1. Every champion needs a determination to be a champion. The champion must possess self determination to be a champion. 2. Every champion needs a coach. There is no self-made champion. 3. Every champion needs skill; must be skillful in his/her approach. 4. Every champion must first discover his strength and promote same. 5. Every champion needs courage to fac...

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Every standing structure has a pillar upon which it is standing; nothing stands on itself without a base or support system in place. The pillars of accountability are about what makes accountability possible, as accountability cannot be in isolation. A mere personal resolve alone do not guarantee accountability because it has a great demand, only a personal resolve backed by the four pillars can guarantee for accountability. There is a part of man’s nature that renounces evil, yet there is a part that gives in so easily to evil. There is a force, an internal conflict that personal resolution without skill cannot handle; so the need for the understanding of the pillars of accountability. You must sign in for these pillars before you can truly be accountable. PILLAR #1 - RESPONSIBILITY is the first point of call in the school of accountability. One must be ready to take responsibility before he/she can boldly say he/she is ready for accountability. You must understand that you have a...

Accountability is the obligation of an individual or organization to account for its activities, accept responsibility for them, and to disclose the result in a transparent manner (www.busniessdictionary.com). Accountability is an obligation; duty bond which could be externally imposed or personally imposed by an individual to account for its actions or activities. It demands accepting responsibility for actions or inaction and being ready to make public the commendation or rebuke in a transparent manner. One is not accountability until he/she is ready to take blames for his failures and applause for his success. The trend I have seen very common is people’s readiness to make public their success while keeping away their failures; this is not real accountability in real sense of it. There must be transparency in times of both success and failure. External accountability is when a system is putting this demand on you, for some if the system is not in place they will have no check. B...

According to Wikipedia ”Parenting (or child rearing) is a process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, financial, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood”. For me I believe that parenting is a full time task and all involving. To make progress in parenting, parents must consciously take steps and make decisions that will guarantee real success. There are some basic requirements for an effective parenting; these requirements are the essentials of parenting. No doubt parenting requires some basic skills. ESSENTIALS #1 : Know that every child is unique – Children are God’s creation, God in the nature of His creation do not mass produce; the children are of same parents but different creature. Every child is a one of its kind and not one of their kinds. ESSENTIAL #2 : Make effort to understand their uniqueness. This is a task every parent must face; until their uniqueness is well appreciated, no progress is possible in parenting. Spend t...

The choices form the decision; Decisions frame the habit, Habits constitutes our character. Life each day presents opportunities for choice to each one and what each one does with these opportunities forms the decision. This decision goes a long way to define who we are. Always life will continue to offer the opportunity for choice, but what one chooses to do with this opportunity is indeed defining. No one is helpless with respect to choice and no one will ever be; the power to choice is what all have though different people exhibit different attitude to this inherit right. What then is choice? Choice is judging the merits of multiple options and selecting one or more of them. Choosing one out of multiple options; it is a right all have and influenced by the information at ones disposal. Information is pivotal to the choices we make; the better one is informed the better the choice he/she makes. Every choice we make has an implication. We are at liberty to make choices but once the ...

In life, what one looks out for is what he/she finds. Going out for right things means right living. Do not look for someone that loves what you love, but look out for someone who loves you. Do not look for someone who is into what you love but look out for someone who is into you. This is a secret to successful relationship in life.

The greatest tragedy of life is the inability to differ between wants and needs. If only man can understand the difference between what their wants are from what their needs are, major stress and crisis in life would not be there. Many are what men want to have and possess but few are what they need to have and possess. This inability to differ in between want and need explains why many are sad, unhappy, and unfulfilled in the midst of plenty, abundance, and great achievement. A lot of people have earned a name for themselves yet they live an empty life, lonely in the midst of multitude of friends and fans. Wishing they never had what they have and in their heart wishing to be like those who envy them. You are fulfilled only when you are able to attend to your needs and not your wants. Those who focus on their wants continues to live in want; and this is the emptiness of life and greatest tragedy the haves face in life. But no one can actually attend to his/her needs without first k...

Expectation is a strong belief that something will happen or be the outcome. A belief centered in the future and which may or may not be realistic. It is a dream but not a lofty dream; always futuristic. Expectation always points to the future , things that will happen in the future but the action must of necessity be taken in the present for ones expectation to be birthed. Every expectation puts a demand on the expectant. When expectations are birthed without a commensurate action, it becomes a mere lofty dream. Your expectation comes with great responsibility; it must be backed up with action for it to deliver the expected. Expectation is the vehicle but action is the driver; so as a vehicle cannot move without a driver so expectation never delivers without action. Even an auto-drive car needs to be programed for the auto-drive to be possible. Action is also the fuel for expectation. Expectations point to the future. A man of great expectation is a man of great dreams who has a gr...

You can’t avoid frustration but you can overcome them. What makes the smart is they ability to deal with frustration and overcome them. Frustration is overcome able and you can overcome it but you require knowledge to overcome frustration. You must know what to do in the face of frustration otherwise you become a victim but I know that won’t be you. Below are some steps to take to deal with frustration: Learn and note what triggers your frustration and avoid them or prepare for them where it is impossible to avoid. Be careful about your expectation of others. Don’t have a high expectation of others, know that your behavior is not a yardstick for others to live by; it is not in your place to set standard. So do not live other people’s life for them. There is a saying that problem shared is half solved, so develop the habit of sharing your frustration with others by discussing it. Find people that are supportive; who will be patient enough to listen and hear you out without being ...

Frustration is a feeling of being upset or annoyed as a result of being unable to change or achieve something. It is a common emotional response to oppositions and unfulfilled dreams or unresolved problem/challenges; often accompanied by anxiety or depression. Synonyms to frustration are exasperation, annoyance, anger, vexation, irritation, bitterness, resentment, disappointment, discouragement, depression, discontent, and dissatisfaction. Frustration is a natural response and no one is immune to it; this is a fact everyone must accept, but some has developed skills that help them deal with frustrations such that it appears as if they have immunity to it. Of great importance is management of frustration as failure of it could result to health conditions and social challenges. There are two basic kinds of frustrations – internal and external and both possess great threat to an individual’s well being. Internal frustration arises from challenges in dealing with fulfillment of persona...

Two-third majority is a political principle requiring that two thirds rather than a simple majority of the members of a politically organized group must concur in order to exercise the power to make decisions binding upon the whole group. It is considered to be a fairer arrangement than simply majority. Two-third majority could apply in practical life issues other than political group. My consideration in this write up is way out of political but life decisions and challenges. In my context of discussion am looking at three entities as constituting my group out of which the two-third is considered; the entities are: you who is reading this write up, your life challenges, and God. The voting process am looking at here is one that cannot be rigged as the one in charge is incorruptible and has proven to be the good judge. The process is free from infiltration of any sort may be because only three persons or entities are involved; so the figure is very easy to manage. Friend, it is intere...