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A coin is a piece of hard material used primarily as a means of exchange or legal tender. There are also two sides to every coin; these two sides are known as head and tail. Any mutilation on either side of the coin renders the coin invalid and as such not fit any longer to serve as a means of exchange or legal tender. Coins have varied value and the values of most coins in use today are usually inscribed on any of the sides of the coin. So every coin has value and two sides to it. As every coin has two sides, so life has two sides as well. Life at any point in time will present choices and the choice we make defines the value we have. This is a slight variation to the analogue of the value of the coin; the value is fixed and whatever side does not have effect on the value of the coin. We make the most of life when we make the most of the opportunity that life present to us at any point in time. People have equal opportunities but varied result because of the decision they made whe...

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Tactful Isaac Newton once said, "Tact is the art of making a point without making an enemy." Being tactful is just that — having the ability to clearly communicate your message while being sensitive to those around you and not unintentionally offending anyone. Being tactful does not mean hiding what you really feel; it just means presenting your ideas in a way that would make them the most appealing and inoffensive. If you want to know how to be tactful, then you should see Step 1 to get started. 1 Think before you speak. Allow yourself a pause to consider how your words could be perceived, and to prevent yourself from making hasty comments. You may have an immediate gut reaction to something your boss or friend is saying, but take a moment to gather your thoughts before you come right out and say what you want to say. Ask yourself if it's the best time to present your ideas, if you should spend some time finding a better way to say what yo...

Tact is a keen sense of what to do or say in order to maintain good relations with others or avoid offense. An acute sensitivity to what is proper and appropriate in dealing with others, including the ability to speak or act without offending. It is a skillful application of wisdom in handling difficult and delicate situation so as to achieve a win-win outcome in a face of obvious opposition or controversy. Other words synonymous to tact are diplomacy, discretion, wisdom, and discernment. A man of tact is skillful and choosy in his language, such one would not say what every other people would say nor react the way others would. They are quick to learn but not quickly to speak; they are great listeners. Tact is a virtue and tact can be developed. It is not what you are born with but any one that cares can develop this virtue. In all diplomatic relation, tact is indispensable. Wars and diplomatic shut downs have been avoided in the past because of tact and there is a local adage in m...

Focus is about staying on one thing until result is gotten, being a person of one thing per time. A settled stone gathers a lot of sand but a rolling stone gathers no sand. Possessing the staying power and ability is focus but so much people lack this ability and would chose to be involved in things than a thing. Someone once said “If you stay on an assignment for ten years, giving that assignment your all; that by the end of the ten years you would find yourself at the peak of that assignment”. From observation, it is difficult to have people focus on a thing for so long, some may for long and not for so long; but focus is about so long for long is not long enough. What then are in focus that makes it deliver results? 1. Precision: focus breeds precision, you can’t be focused and lack precision. Being exact on what to do and how to get that done. 2. Defines the flow of energy: focus will make one to channel energy to what is most important. 3. Fuels dream: keeping your eye on t...

In computer science, mutual exclusion refers to the requirement of ensuring that no two concurrent processes or event are in their critical section at the same time; it is a basic requirement in concurrency control, to prevent race conditions. Here, a critical section refers to a period when the process accesses a shared resource, such as shared memory. Two propositions (or events) are mutually exclusive or disjoint if they cannot both be true (occur). A clear example is the set of outcomes of a single coin toss, which can result in either heads or tails, but not both. In the coin-tossing example, both outcomes are, in theory, jointly exhaustive, which means that at least one of the outcomes must happen, so these two possibilities together exhaust all the possibilities.[1] However, not all mutually exclusive events are collectively exhaustive. For example, the outcomes 1 and 4 of a single roll of a six-sided die are mutually exclusive (both cannot happen at the same time) but not c...

Now the whole earth had one language and one speech. 2 And it came to pass, as they journeyed from the east, that they found a plain in the land of Shinar, and they dwelt there. 3 Then they said to one another, “Come, let us make bricks and bake them thoroughly.” They had brick for stone, and they had asphalt for mortar. 4 And they said, “Come, let us build ourselves a city, and a tower whose top is in the heavens; let us make a name for ourselves, lest we be scattered abroad over the face of the whole earth.” 5 But the LORD came down to see the city and the tower which the sons of men had built. 6 And the LORD said, “Indeed the people are one and they all have one language, and this is what they begin to do; now nothing that they propose to do will be withheld from them. 7 Come, let Us go down and there confuse their language, that they may not understand one another’s speech.” 8 So the LORD scattered them abroad from there over the face of all the earth, and they ceased building th...

And they [a]sang the song of Moses, the bond-servant of God, and the song of the Lamb, saying, “Great and wonderful and awe-inspiring are Your works [in judgment], O Lord God, the Almighty [the Omnipotent, the Ruler of all]; Righteous and true are Your ways, O King of the [b]nations! Revelation 15:3 The Lamb here is our Lord Jesus Christ; the ministry of the Lord Jesus and that of Moses are very similar in a number of ways and so the song of Moses and the song of the Lord is a similar song. It is a song of deliverance and salvation. The song of Moses is a song of deliverance and salvation for Israel but the song of the Lamb is a song of deliverance and salvation for the whole world; all mankind, tongue and race notwithstanding because He is the Lamb that was slain and purchased men unto God And they sang a new song [of glorious redemption], saying, “Worthy and deserving are You to take the scroll and to break its seals; for You were slain (sacrificed), and with Your blood Yo...

“Come now, and let us reason together,” Says the LORD, “Though your sins are like scarlet, They shall be as white as snow; Though they are red like crimson, They shall be as wool. Isaiah 1:18 When we call God our Father, this reminds Him of His obligations to us as His family members and triggers His provision in our direction. It is essential to note that new birth among other things makes one a member of God’s household and it is fatherhood responsibility to provide for his household. Any failure in this respect makes such one worse than an infidel (unbeliever) and has denied the faith. But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. 1Timothy 5:8 It is important to approach prayer altar with the following mindset: God is my Father, He asked me to come to reason with Him, and I have an assurance of an answer from Him otherwise He is denying the faith but God cannot deny the faith....

5 Then Jehoshaphat stood in the assembly of Judah and Jerusalem, in the house of the LORD, before the new court, 6 and said: “O LORD God of our fathers, are You not God in heaven, and do You not rule over all the kingdoms of the nations, and in Your hand is there not power and might, so that no one is able to withstand You? 7 Are You not our God, who drove out the inhabitants of this land before Your people Israel, and gave it to the descendants of Abraham Your friend forever? 8 And they dwell in it, and have built You a sanctuary in it for Your name, saying, 9 ‘If disaster comes upon us—sword, judgment, pestilence, or famine—we will stand before this temple and in Your presence (for Your name is in this temple), and cry out to You in our affliction, and You will hear and save.’ 2 Chronicles 20:5-9 One of the uniqueness of belief in the God of the bible is the privilege of having the Almighty God as a Father. There exist a family tie relationship between us and God; for He is not jus...

LUKE 15: 18 I will arise and go to my father, and will say unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before thee, 19 And am no more worthy to be called thy son: make me as one of thy hired servants. 20 And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him. 21 And the son said unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and in thy sight, and am no more worthy to be called thy son. 22 But the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put it on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet: 23 And bring hither the fatted calf, and kill it; and let us eat, and be merry: 24 For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found. And they began to be merry. Ephesian 3:20 - Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, God has the ability...

Home and family is the foremost institution, in home and family life are brought forth and built up by inculcating values which then form characters. God has a processes and procedures for bring life (children) into being; these processes are marriage – family – home; in the order stated and a break in this order gives rise to illegality. There is a trend that is becoming much common in our society and this trend is prominent among people of great influence; the class the society view as superstars or celebrities. This trend is baby mama and baby daddy syndrome. Many want baby but they are not interested in the legal process that should precede bringing forth of babies. Someone has said, “If you love children bring them into the world legally. This is the way to show honor to these children”. Why will someone who has a means not be willing to do things right and legal? Is a question I have always asked; why choose to have baby mama when you have a great option and means to have a wi...

Once one is given over to a reprobate mind, the acts and actions of such one becomes unimaginably wrong and absurd because it is the mind that defines our values and values inform our actions and behaviors. A corrupted mind begets a corrupted action, a debased mind a debased action, a deprived mind a deprived and defective actions. But is there hope for such ones? Yes there is, Jesus through His life, death, and resurrection has wrought a way of escape for all. Whoever accepts Christ receives the empowerment to be freed from this snare and trap of the devil John 3:16-17 16 “[L For] God loved the world so much that he gave his •one and only [only; unique only begotten; 1:14, 18] Son so that whoever believes in him may not •be lost [T perish], but have eternal life. 17 [L For; Indeed] God did not send his Son into the world to •judge the world guilty [condemn the world], but to save the world through him. There is a flow of grace for all that care to embrace His grace. This grace has a...

4 [L For] Everything that was written in the past was written to teach us. The Scriptures give us •patience [endurance] and encouragement so that we can have hope. Romans 15:4 (EXB) 11 The things that happened to those people are examples. They were written down to •teach [instruct; warn] us •who live in the final days of this age [L for whom the end/climax/culmination of the ages has come]. 1 Corinthians 10:11 (EXB) It is important to understand that the God of the Bible is not just our creator and maker, but our Father. He introduced Himself as such and Jesus in teaching His followers how to pray, addressed God as a Father. If you are a father or are blessed to have a good father, you will not struggle to understand who God is as a father. No father will give instruction and expect his children to go against the instruction so that he will punish them; fathers do not set rules as a trap for their children to fall into them and be injured. Instead fathers expect their children to ...

26 Then God said, “Let us make human beings in our image and likeness. And let them •rule [T have dominion] over the fish in the sea and the birds in the •sky [heavens], over the •tame animals [beasts; livestock], over all the earth, and over all the small crawling animals on the earth.” 27 So God created [1:1] •human beings [T man; C the Hebrew Adam can mean human beings, humankind, person, man, or the proper name Adam] in his image [C reflecting God’s nature/character and representing him in the world]. In the image of God he created them. He created them male and female. 28 God blessed them and said [L to them], “•Have many children and grow in number [T Be fruitful and multiply]. •Fill […and fill] the earth and •be its master [subdue it]. •Rule [T Have dominion] over the fish in the sea and over the birds in the •sky [heavens] and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” Genesis 1:26-28 (Expanded Bible Version). 26 Because people did those things, God •abandoned them t...

"And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient" (Romans 1:28) "Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith." (2Timothy 3:8) "They profess that they know God; but in works they deny him, being abominable, and disobedient, and unto every good work reprobate." (Titus 1:16) A Reprobate Mind is a defective, debased, corrupted, depraved, unapproved, or rejected mind. Mind that has lost a sense of value and worth, lack character because of its rejection of common sense and reasoning. One becomes reprobate when knowing the truth, willfully goes against the very truth. Their lack the will to live by the truth and live in denial of what they have tested and proven to be true; because there is nothing one can tell them that they do not know already, they are given to a reproba...

Romans 1:21-32 (Expanded Bible Version) 21 They knew God, but they did not give glory to God or thank him. Their thinking became •useless [futile; pointless]. Their foolish [ignorant; uncomprehending] •minds [L hearts] were •filled with darkness [darkened].22 They claimed to be wise, but they became fools. 23 They •traded [exchanged] the glory of •God who lives forever [the immortal/imperishable God] for the worship of •idols [images] made to look like •earthly [mortal; perishable] people, birds, animals, and reptiles. 24 Because they did these things, God •abandoned them to [allowed them to pursue; gave them over to] •their sinful desires [L the desires of their hearts], resulting in •sexual impurity [L uncleanness; impurity] and the dishonoring of their bodies with one another. 25 They •traded [exchanged] the truth of God for •a lie [or the lie; see Gen. 3:4–5] and worshiped and served •the creation [or the creature; or created things] instead of the Creator, who •should be praise...

Welcome to Nelson Nwegbo's Blog: FOUR PILLARS OF ACCOUNTABILITY : Every standing structure has a pillar upon which it is standing; nothing stands on itself without a base or support system in place. The pi...

I have heard often times of people making a statement that life is not fair to them. But my response had always remained that life will never be fair. What is fairness then? It is simply free from bias or injustice; consistent with rules. So fairness do not just happen, it is enforced; rules are not kept by, they are as well enforced and that explains why we have the law court, the judiciary system, and the law enforcement agencies. Fairness are truly fought for and so the need to put up a fight to make life fair to you. There are two basic ways to put up this fight and they are enforcement and sowing a seed of fairness. ENFORCEMENT: It is said that life will not give anyone what is deserved but what is demanded. In enforcement, you make a demand of what you want, weathering all the storms and refusing to let go until your desire delivers. Be ready to fight it out. SOW A SEED OF FAIRNESS. ”he that comes to equity must come with a clean hand”. It is difficult to have justice when y...

Though thy beginning was small, yet thy latter end should greatly increase. Job 8:7 It is in the nature of God to start great things in a very small way. This most times is contrary to the quick fix culture of our age. Nothing great today actually started big but in a little form; the account of creation and every day experience attests to this. In God’s dream to fill the whole earth with man who is to subdue and replenish the earth, created only a man – Adam and much later a woman – Eve; He did not create all the nations, tribes, race, and languages in a day. God chose to make only one man in His image and likeness and out of him created all nations, tribes, race, and languages. A seed is a very small part of a tree, but inside that tiny seed is not just a tree but trees. When the seed is sown, it do not turn to a tree overnight but goes through a process of time to transform to a tree and then a forest. Even the human life, it starts little in fertilization, pregnancy and then b...

Life is a great teacher; it teaches through the experiences that it brings our way as we daily live our lives. Those that shy away from life experiences, unknowingly denies themselves the opportunity to learn. The things you went through leave lasting impressions that cannot be easily erased and to a large extinct form your character and skill. It is natural for like to beget like; so successful people should have successful children or protégé but the contrary had almost always been the case -The children of the most successful people end up being the failures of all time. The question had always been why? Why this aberrations? What’s the disconnect? The simply explanation to that is that most successful people shield their children from the things that made them successful and great – their experiences; the things they went through in life. So common we hear parents say I suffered so much and as such would not want my children to suffer. Words like these are only excusing such ...

By Obaro E Aziza The essence of setting goals is to help us live our lives properly and achieve the things we desire in life. There are different areas of our lives we need to set goals like our finances, relationships, career and others. Setting goals is important but more important is our ability to maintain our focus until we achieve these goals. In this article I will expose you to some very vital tips on how you can stay focused on your goals until you have achieved them. I strongly advice that you digest this article several times and share it with people you know who have a challenge staying focused on their goals. The simple ways you can stay focused on your goals include: 1. Be clear about your goals Are you very clear on the things you want to achieve in your life? Are your goals clear of are they vague? The very first step in staying focused on your goals is to ensure that you are clear about what you want to achieve. You must define the expected outcomes that you ...

By Obaro E Aziza Our lives are an aggregation of the things we do daily. It is therefore very important that you deliberately spend your time on the most productive activities. The most productive people are those who have been able to identify those activities that give them great results and spend most of their time on such activities. In this article, I have written on ways you can make the best use of your time daily. These tips will help you become a more effective person and get results faster. Some effective ways to maximize your day include: 1. Start with a plan Before you step out of your house in the morning, make sure you have a to-do list for that day. The major reason a lot of people feel they have wasted their time during the day is because most of them did not have a plan for that day. You must have your daily goals written down and stored where you can retrieve easily during the day. You can write your plans on a notepad, dairy or use your computer or other mo...

It is impossible to be left out with no option on what to do; life is always fair enough to leave us with alternatives. But the challenge had always been that we often treat the alternatives with contempt and pretend to have no option. Naturally, the flow is in the direction of least resistance and passing the bulk is easier thing to do than taking ownership and responsibility; we blame everyone and everything thereby show how immature we are. For a few, they put themselves in the list of who to blame but blame do not in any way help. It is very likely to blame others and even yourself when ones interest is to get off the hook and not to address the matter; when you only think of escape route rather than a perpetual solution or the intention is to create an impression rather than make an impact. What alternatives do I have other than blaming other? 1. Admit your wrongs. Admitting your wrongs do not in any way make you less human rather it makes you the real human you are. It is a ...

One major reason we live is to have opportunities to have experiences and learn from them; once we learn we move on to the next one. However, if we fail to learn, we keep finding opportunities to learn it again and again; it is an endless cycle of adventure. Many people fail in life because the experiences that came their way end up being an event because no lesson was learnt from them. They blame everyone but themselves for these events and so become much blinded to the lesson the experiences have presented to them. No wonder they never cease to have repeat of similar experiences. Life will continue to throw at us the same lessons until we learn from them for there are no shortcut to life and more so no carryover. Here are some ways to start learning from life experiences, you must push a stop button to blame game to able to make progress in life. 1. Look out for a lesson to learn from whatever experience you pass through especially the negative experiences. 2. Make a personal ...

Before talking or explaining the methods that you can use to cook beans to prevent farting after, you should first understand what causes this flatulence. Beans contain a class of carbohydrates called Oligosaccharides (e.g. raffinose and stachyose), some of which cannot be processed by our digestive system. When we eat beans and they get to our intestine, the Oligosaccharides remain there as we do not have the enzymes or any other thing whatsoever to digest them. After the Oligosaccharides pass into our large intestine, the bacteria present there start to break them down. During this process, the bacteria release several different types of gases, mainly hydrogen, nitrogen and carbon dioxide. About 33% of these bacteria also end up producing methane and this is the one that smells. Methods for Cooking Beans To Prevent Farting 1. Soaking your Beans in Water Scientists and even pro chefs have recommended soaking your beans in water for hours before cooking will remove most of the...

The Love They See -By Bob Perks You can't pretend to love. You can't even fake a smile. The things you think they don't notice, they have been watching all the while. Be aware that they are seeing everything you do. If you want your children to know love then it's really up to you. For love isn't just a play time. Love isn't a TV show. If you love them unconditionally then love will be what they know. It's not what you want them to remember it's what they will choose to see. If you loved one another always then loving is what they will be.

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good. 2. When in doubt, just take the next small step. 3. Life is too short not to enjoy it. 4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will. 5. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need. 6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself. 7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone. 8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it but don't be offended in God He may not take that. 9. Save for things that matter. 10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile. 11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present. 12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry. 13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about. 14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it. 15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye… But don’t worry; God never blinks. 16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind. 17. Get rid of anything that is...

Building good character demands conscious and careful effort. No one is born with good character; good characters are developed and below are some essentials to building a good character. 1. Commitment to right attitude – your attitude defines your character and it demands a commitment to right attitude to have a good character. 2. Consciously work on your emotion – what you see yourself do when you are emotional is your real character; so build a capacity to manage your emotion such that it does not misrepresent you. At best be mindful of what you do when emotionally unstable. 3. Avoid creating wrong impression – you do not have a second chance to make the first impression. When you pass a wrong impression of yourself, people define you with that wrong impression; so make every effort to avoid wrong impression. 4. Have people you hold yourself accountable to. You do not have your life to live because we live in community, make sure you are accountable to someone. 5. Hold others ...

Character is the mental and moral quality distinctive to an individual. It is the real identity of an individual or group of people; who you are when you are face to face with pressures and difficulties of life, or even when this are rosy. It is the way someone feel, think, and behave in the unguided moment. Six Pillars of Character Trustworthiness Be honest • Don’t deceive, cheat, or steal • Be reliable — do what you say you’ll do • Have the courage to do the right thing • Build a good reputation • Be loyal — stand by your family, friends, and country Respect Treat others with respect; follow the Golden Rule • Be tolerant and accepting of differences • Use good manners, not bad language • Be considerate of the feelings of others • Don’t threaten, hit or hurt anyone • Deal peacefully with anger, insults, and disagreements Responsibility Do what you are supposed to do • Plan ahead • Persevere: keep on trying! • Always do your best • Use self-control • Be self-disciplined • Think be...

At moment of challenges and difficulties in life, it is easier for people to look for help from people around them; friends, relations; colleagues, and even strangers. There is a mindset that the way forward will come from without and not from within; but if only one will look within, he would have gotten help earlier and easier than anticipated because what you need is within you. A Spider will never need anything without to build its web, all it takes a Spider to build its web comes from within the Spider and so all you need is within you; but you must be able to look within to discover this. At creation, God made the first man Adam with Eve his wife within him and at the right time she was taken away from Adam. The need of a help meet for Adam made God to look within Adam and made Eve while Adam was in a deep sleep; Adam said she is the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh. She was taken from me and called her woman – a man that was inside me. So help Adam needed was all the...

Now all these things happened unto them for examples: and they are written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the world are come. 1 Corinthians 10:11

Practical techniques you can adopt are: 1. Learn to cope with stress 2. Develop self-esteem (confidence) 3. Develop effective strategies to cope with conflict 4. Develop a positive attitude 5. Learn to be patient 6. Re-appraise your situation 7. Learn from feedback 8. Maintain a healthy lifestyle 9. Manage your time better

Look at the birds! They don’t worry about what to eat—they don’t need to sow or reap or store up food—for your heavenly Father feeds them. And you are far more valuable to him than they are. Matthew 6:26 TLB

There was a King, he had 10 wild Dogs and he used them to torture and eats all ministers who made mistakes. So one of the ministers once gave an opinion which was wrong, and which the king didn’t like at all; so he ordered that the minister to be thrown to the Dogs. So the minister said I served you 10 years and you do this to me? Please give me 10 days before you throw me in with the dogs so the King agreed In those 10 day the minister went to the guard that was guarding the Dogs and told him he wants to serve the Dogs for the next 10 days ; the guard was baffled but he agreed, so the minister started feeding the Dogs, cleaning for them, washing them and providing a sort of care and comfort for them; And so 10 days were off and the king ordered that the minister be thrown to the Dogs for his punishment. The minister was thrown in but everybody was amazed by what they saw and said “what happened to the dogs”? Then the minister said to the King “I served the dogs for only 10 days an...

You might not be proud of all the things you’ve done in the past, but that’s okay. The past is not today. Here are 11 things to leave behind and grow beyond : 1. Letting other people write your life’s story . – You could spend your whole life worrying about what other people think of you, or what they want for you, but it won’t get you very far. If you don’t take charge and design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? NOT MUCH! Read The Last Lecture . 2. The fear of making mistakes . – Past mistakes should teach you to create a wonderful future; not cause you to be afraid of it. Be less afraid of making a mess out of your life. For oftentimes, our greatest achievements and our most beautiful creations ascend from the emotions we live, the lessons we learn, and the messes we make along the way. Just ask a poet, an artist, a songwriter, a lover, or a parent; in the long-run things rarely turn out as pl...