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Sometimes you want to forgive, but resentments still linger. These steps will help you overcome the barriers to reconciliation. 1. Everybody has a good side. "True forgiveness is when you can say, "Thank you for that experience." - Oprah Winfrey. Focus on the positive qualities of the person who has offended you. See how in the past they may have added value to you. Stay in the energy of gratitude for what they have done for you and you'll eventually start to cherish them for real once again. 2. Accept your contribution. In all likelihood, you probably played some part in the conflict. Acknowledge your actions and figure out how to make positive changes. 3. Look at it from their point of view. When someone fails to apologize, it usually has more to do with them than with you. They may feel ashamed or vulnerable. When you think about their pain, you may feel like you have more in common. 4. Resist all-or-nothing thinking. Distinguish between the huma...

Have you ever been hurt? Have you ever waited for an apology that never came? Have you ever felt that someone needed to say "sorry" to you but they didn't do it? Let's say a friend throws a party without inviting you, or a co-worker misses a deadline that's crucial for your favorite project or your partner / spouse really hurts you. You may be gracious enough to forgive if you receive a sincere apology, but what happens if the other person refuses to say the words you long to hear? Author Robert Brault says, "Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got." Now, it sounds like an awesome idea doesn't it? But the question is how to make the first move? One of the things that has personally helped me a lot in situations like this is to always remind myself that the advantages of forgiveness are the same whether the other person apologizes or not. Think of pardoning others as something you do for yourself rather than for...